I haven't been slacking...really.

So I have been meaning to write entries on a more regular basis...but alas there are many obligations for a General such as myself. I know the couple entries I have posted seem mundane and nobody is following this blog anyway, so it isn't like my fans are disappointed and waiting by their computers hoping I will post something new. Maybe I should tell more than just one or two people to read it. We'll get to that. Need some more content before I tell people to read this.

So lets write a real post...

The dating game...that is what started this blog, specifically my friend Charlie Brown (not his real name) deciding to get back out there after getting divorced at 28and starting a blog himself. Charlie Brown, I am sorry that I totally ripped off your idea. But hopefully the other cast of characters will start their own blogs too and we can really get something happening here. A discorse, a collection of different people's experiences, a document of our times and struggles, a community even. These are my goals with this endeavor.

I have decided to really give it my all in "getting back out there." I got divorced when I was 29...a week before my 30th birthday. I have casually dated in the three and a half years since, but haven't taken that next step into pursuing an actual relationship. Had my share of naked fun, sometimes only for a night, sometimes a weekend, one almost a whole week. But all of these were safe lays. Women who I wouldn't have to see again. In some cases, women I knew there wasn't chance for anything beyound that moment. It was fun, I really needed that after the divorce and move cross country. A reassertion of my prowes as a viril male mamal.

Now I am ready for something more. I know it, I feel it in my heart, mind and soul. I need to find a companion. My other half. I am ready to fall in love again. Honestly, I have probably been ready for a while and just haven't been able to overcome inertia. I have gotten pretty good at hookups, but can't seem to translate that to hooking up with a girl I would actually like to date. I think the difference is that with a random hookup, there is nothing at stake for me if I get rejected. In the last couple years, whenever there was the possibility of long term, I found a way to sabatoge it. Either by not taking my shot early enough, not taking my shot at all, or by overdoing it and scaring the potential girlfriend away.

So here are some things I am going to do to fix this problem.

1 - I am going to ask out every single girl I already know and have always wanted to ask out. These are women who I already know as friends and I think that the comfortability factor would make it easy to relax and in the very least give me some good practice for real get to know you first dates with women I don't know.

2 - When I meet a woman with potential, I will ask them out at the first available opportunity after realizing I want to ask them out. I think one of my problems is that I wait too long, so I allow myself to indulge the idea of what could be rather than living in what is. If I just ask the girl out when I first want to, then there won't be a lot of hopes riding on her answer and I won't be nervous when asking her out.

3 - I will remind myself that I have been rejected literally hundreds of times in my life. Some of those women who have rejected me are now my dear friends. Rejection is still a partial victory because I asked. Every battle I win with myself, brings me closer to winning the campaign.

I have already started implimenting these tactics. I've asked out two girls in the last couple weeks and had coffee with one. I am not sure that the second was an outright rejection. While I got her digits, we have yet to hang out. Hopefully that will change this weekend.

I will update this more regularly and keep you posted on all the battles, troop movements and news from the front.